I’m all for helping people (especially family members), but I can also admit when things have gone too far and people are trying to take advantage of others.
And that, my friends, seems to be what this story from Reddit’s “Am I the *******?” page is about.
Is this young woman doing something wrong?
Read on and tell us what you think.
“I (21f) am a student and still live with my family.
Last year my family moved into a slightly smaller house, and since my sister and I were constantly on the go anyway (me with college, her with work and staying at her boyfriend’s), we agreed that we would share the largest bedroom.
And it wasn’t planned to be a long-term thing, especially since we’re both at an age where it’s time to leave the nest.
I would have done it by now, but I’m currently attending nursing school and can’t support myself while working a full-time job.
There has been a great development.
This wasn’t a big problem, especially since we only had to be there together OCCASIONALLY during the summer.
In the fall, however, my sister became pregnant by her boyfriend. She said she and her boyfriend would sort it out.
It’s a bit complicated because he (25 million) still lives with his mother and he and she live an hour away from each other.
His mother wanted her to move in because they have enough room for her and the baby, but his mother smokes in the house, so that wasn’t a viable option.
So they spent MONTHS trying to find a solution, but neither of them was willing to compromise and move and look for an apartment in one city or the other.
Until literally a WEEK before the scheduled induction date.
They know she hasn’t gone anywhere…
My sister agreed that she would be willing to move to his city and look for an apartment together.
But that week passed quickly and the baby was born.
A month later, she still lives here and he still lives an hour away and only comes to visit her three times a week.
During this time I am expected to leave my bedroom and collapse on the couch, which I find RIDICULOUS.
Say, whaaaaaat?!?!
And when he’s not there, my sister gets incredibly angry at me for not getting up at 1 a.m. to feed and change her child.
She says it’s selfish of me not to do it since she hardly gets any sleep anyway and it helps her a lot.
I’ve done it a few times, but it EXHAUSTS me and I’ve been thinking about being young and childless.
I help during the day, but I don’t lose any sleep if I wasn’t the one who decided to give birth to a child without being prepared.
She’s angry at me about it, which I can kind of understand because we’re her support system.
But I shouldn’t have to make any more changes in my life (get kicked out of MY bedroom, lose sleep) than the baby’s father.
And it seems like my generosity is being taken advantage of, because neither of them seems to be in a hurry to get out.
“Is that ok?”
This is what Reddit users had to say.
A reader said she was NTA.
Another person intervened.
This Reddit user has an idea.
This person has spoken up.
And another Reddit user said she was NTA.
That’s a lot to ask of someone!
Especially when they already have a lot to do themselves.
If you liked this story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandchild because his or her parents won’t, but the parents then want to use the money for their sibling’s medical expenses.
